Going through a divorce is hardly ever easy, but the situation becomes much more challenging if you’re going through this process with a narcissist. By nature, a narcissist has an intense sense of self-importance and a need to control everything possible. They often use emotional tactics to try to invoke reactions in people as a way to feel powerful.
It’s important that you consider the traits of the individual you’re divorcing as you embark on this process. Understanding the dynamics you’re facing and having options for handling the chaos that is likely to come when you divorce a narcissist may be beneficial.
Everything is a battle
A narcissist feels the need to win at everything. They often view compromising as losing, so they aren’t likely to be willing to do that. This can lead to the divorce taking much longer than it would take if you were divorcing someone who didn’t have narcissism.
Proof is critical
Narcissists have a tendency to twist the truth to fit their own narrative. Because of this, it’s critical that you keep proof of everything. This includes receipts if you pay for things and copies of communications. Being able to show the court the truth can help to do away with some battles.
If you’re divorcing a person who has narcissistic tendencies, it’s important that you refrain from labeling them as a narcissist as part of your case, especially if there isn’t a valid diagnosis made by a licensed medical professional. Working with someone who’s familiar with these contentious divorces may be beneficial since they will be able to go through the options with you and help you determine how to proceed.